Ten Commandments: #5 Honor Thy Father & Mother
“Whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do.” — James 1:25 ESV
“Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man. For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.” — Ecclesiastes 12:13-14
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Be Obedient
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” — Ephesians 6:1-4
“If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and who, when they have chastened him, will not heed them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city, to the gate of his city. And they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of his city shall stone him to death with stones; so you shall put away the evil from among you, and all Israel shall hear and fear.” — Deuteronomy 21:18-21 NKJV
“Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.” — Colossians 3:20
Fear them
“And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, Speak unto all the congregation of the children of Israel, and say unto them, Ye shall be holy: for I the LORD your God am holy. Ye shall fear every man his mother, and his father, and keep my sabbaths: I am the LORD your God.” —Leviticus 19:1-3
Do not lightly esteem
“Cursed be he that setteth light by his father or his mother. And all the people shall say, Amen.” — Deuteronomy 27:16
Definition: 1. to be dishonoured, be despised, be lightly esteemed
2. to treat with contempt, dishonour, treat shamefully
“The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it.” — Proverbs 30:17
“Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.” — Proverbs 23:22
Do not curse them
“There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother. There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.” — Proverbs 30:11-12
“For God commanded, saying, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘He who curses father or mother, let him be put to death.’ But you say, ‘Whoever says to his father or mother, “Whatever profit you might have received from me is a gift to God”— then he need not honor his father or mother.’ Thus you have made the commandment of God of no effect by your tradition.” — Matthew 15:4-6 NKJV
“For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:”— Mark 7:10
Definition: 1. to speak ill of, revile, abuse, one; to calumniate, traduce:
2. Hellenistically, to imprecate evil on, curse:
“And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.” — Exodus 21:17
“For every one that curseth his father or his mother shall be surely put to death: he hath cursed his father or his mother; his blood shall be upon him.” — Leviticus 20:9
“Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.” — Proverbs 20:20
Do not smite them
“And he that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death.” — Exodus 21:15
Definition: to strike, smite, hit, beat, slay, kill
Do not mistreat them
“He who mistreats his father and chases away his mother is a son who causes shame and brings reproach.” — Proverbs 19:26 NKJV
Do not rob them
“Whoso robbeth his father or his mother, and saith, It is no transgression; the same is the companion of a destroyer.” — Proverbs 28:24
Make a list of the action words in the scriptures in all the sections above. What are you not to do toward your parents?
What are the consequences that were listed for taking those actions against parents?
Forsake not their law, commandments, instruction
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction. My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother: For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck.” — Proverbs 1:8
“My son, keep thy father's commandment, and forsake not the law of thy mother: Bind them continually upon thine heart, and tie them about thy neck. When thou goest, it shall lead thee; when thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; and when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee. For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; and reproofs of instruction are the way of life:” —Proverbs 6:20-23
When it says father or mother’s law, commandment, instruction what is it referring to?
Wise Children
“A wise son maketh a glad father: but a foolish man despiseth his mother.” — Proverbs 15:20
“The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him. Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.” — Proverbs 23:24-25
“Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right.” — Proverbs 20:11
“The ear that heareth the reproof of life abideth among the wise. He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding. The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility.” — Proverbs 15:31-33
What are the characteristics of a good son or daughter according to the above scriptures?
What does wisdom come from?
A Foolish Son
“A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him.” — Proverbs 17:25
According to the scriptures above what are the characteristics of a child that brings grief to their parents?
The Parents Role
“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” — Proverbs 22:15
“Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.” — Proverbs 23:13-14
“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might. And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates.” — Deuteronomy 6:4-9
“He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” — Proverbs 13:24
“Only take heed to thyself, and keep thy soul diligently, lest thou forget the things which thine eyes have seen, and lest they depart from thy heart all the days of thy life: but teach them thy sons, and thy sons' sons;” — Deuteronomy 4:9
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” — Proverbs 22:6
“And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” — Ephesians 6:4
What is the parents role in raising their child? List what the scriptures says to do and not to do.
Repent and obey the commandment
Parents, sons and daughters, if you are guilty of any of these things REPENT. Forgive where forgiveness is needed and ask Yah to show you His Way.
Encouragement
“And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.” — Hebrews 12:5-11
